Tips for Talking: PUBERTY
I have to thank my sister-in-law for inspiring me to have these discussions with my children. She is a psychologist and has been employed as a school counsellor for several years. She was kind enough to share her fantastic tips. They are great for parents of teens and pre-teens!
While families will differ on when they decide is best to broach these topics with their children, one thing to keep in mind is that what kids learn first they tend to assimilate as the truth or the norm, so we want to reach them before anyone or anything else does. We want to be their first source of information, ensuring they are learning is accurate and aligned with our values. Furthermore, it is ideal to be proactive rather than reactive, and educate them before they actually reach puberty so they will be mentally prepared for the upcoming physical and emotional changes. Otherwise, these changes may leave them confused, scared and they may reach out to alternate sources to understand what is happening. And importantly, because this stage comes with accountability to Allah SWT, they should be on alert for the signs of reaching this important stage in their lives, as well as understand the responsibilities that come with it.
Having said that, it is certainly not a topic that comes easily to most of us! Some tips to make it easier on you (and your child!) Insha’Allah: